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July 24, 2008

Mushy time!

My theory of love evolvement in 'relationships'..

Generally... in my humble opinion ...

During teenage years, love is about out-of-curiosity..and of coz at this point of time you are strictly not encourage by definitely your parents to not even think about it but kids, the more you tell them not to, the more they get curious..and of course..this love will fade away fast..and thats why they use the term monkey or puppy..why puppy?..checked the Wikiwiki here and monkey?..err..err..not sure..cant find it in google

and during college years, love has become a 'culture' like..hey-everybody-has-bf/gf--i-must-have-one-too kinda love..and if and when he/she change-change-partner-kinda-person, you get marked..this is where 'intimacy' begins.. go library togethergether, go study togethergether et cetera..

The 'love' during the college years may or may not continues as career starts. If it doesnt continue, obviously they found a partner who is macho'er/preettier,'loaded', more romantic.. at the workplace or in a social gatherings. . Usually this is the time where love is about looking-for-a-soulmate, someone to share your ever-increasing-stress-level due to work and whatnots.

At this level he/she will start to strategize no matter how long it takes, the more you strategize the longer time it takes. Emphasizing on the family background, financial, looks. brain etcetera, and when he/she found one...the brain, the heart, the liver, the hands, legs all start to 'ache'

So when everything is in 'order', next step is to become his/her fiance. During this sorta interval before marriage. the hot 'love' turns into some sparks of aggitativeness...love-is-put-to-the-test..while trying to define trust, respect, responsibility, commitments, sharing..bla bla bla

Then, Marriage - the first two years..love is in the air..love love and love..no matter how sucks and smelly your partner is..

After two years of marriage, love has solidly become the trust respect responsibilities commitments, sharing adapting..etc This time around, he/she needs extra 'energy' to be patient esp when little little 'monsters' 'emerge'

After 10 years, love is about creativeness.. things can start to get a bit shaky if he/she starts to think that marriage is all about in-the-papers and money and routine, undermining the sacred of marriage institution. Maybe things didnt work out along the way and he/she has to part due to whatever reasons, and if he/she wants to 'repair' that he/she can/should forgive and forget and have fun without each other for a while.. and who knows things will get even better...

After 20 years, i dono...not yet there hehe, i guess is about the love to the whole family and the entire human race ;-), and if he/she becomes the rich Datuk K, L, M, N and suddenly..cewah suddenly..hehe..he/she found a sexier and sweeter and younger and richer Datuk S, T, U, V...love is a manipulation of all of the points above...hahahahehehehuhuhuhohoho ( joker laugh )

As for me..i love everybody who loves me..foh-e-vah! hehe..and my family is the one and only cinta suciku...

..so dont worry..if you are full of love..love will come to you in many ways... *wink* to cuz

PEACE

21 Comments:

Blogger cat bat said...

i love everybody who loves me too and u are on the top list, cuz ;-)

but i was emphasizing on soulmate. too many bad precedents, my precautions are at the highest possible level i.e. the impossible.

anyway, if i don't get any soulmate to grow old with me, i'll just bug you and your kids' life for the rest of mine la erk.. ;-)

Thu Jul 24, 03:43:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger Neeza Shahril said...

great theory which some fits me, some don't. My first 2 years of marriage. love is not in the air because we tried to change our partners to be us!
alhamdulilah things get better after that..

Thu Jul 24, 04:17:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

cuz: u can bug me anytime lah...even if u found yr soulmate ( positive level ;-) )..and no..i am not taking care of yr kids heheh

neez: well yeah..adapting is an issue during the first two years..but that time hubby still suka pujuk bila kita merajuk hehehe
..hope it gets better and better everyday ya ;-) hugzzzz

Thu Jul 24, 07:09:00 pm GMT+8  
Anonymous fidah said...

hiya norm,
yea.. yea.. i'm learning the ropes of the net (thx 2u) and definitely luv ya luv ya luv ya, and the kids and, even that funny fella who hangs out with u and the cool bunch. Just one q... 'my family is the one and only cinta suciku? so, umm, who's your cinta tak suciku eh?

Thu Jul 24, 09:30:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

fidddddddd...alas u arrived!! announcing the arrival of a very good buddy thru thick n thin, thru sick and sin..
err the q tuh..soalam pot of gold tuh...hafta to think hard about it.....next entry hehehhehe

Fri Jul 25, 12:34:00 am GMT+8  
Blogger bluecrystaldude said...

Dammit.. You took the words out of my mouth. Haha.. well, at least three quarter of your love stages. Can't wait to reach out for the next level.. though I sincerely hope I won't grow up and take more and more responsibilities that come along with it. sigh..

Fri Jul 25, 04:18:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

i did?!!..hehe..its a general point of viewlah bro ;-) Not really 'my' love stages lah, thru observation je ;-P . Yeah responsibilities get higher and higher..tht time u'd wish u cld stay in an island alone. Just go with the flow...

Fri Jul 25, 04:28:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger Wafa Nokman said...

HEAVY! But informative nevertheless...taken notes too! Believe it or not... heheheheh It does make sense though ;-)

Sat Jul 26, 03:01:00 am GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

wah! hehe..no need to take note laaa hehe...shower her with your love forever and ever ;-)

Sat Jul 26, 03:26:00 am GMT+8  
Blogger Amy said...

Keh keh so true la akak..the first two years tu memang challenging. But still dipujuk. Masuk 3rd year kalau merajuk lagi, bak kata si pelawak tu 'Lu pikir la sendiri' ehhehe..and this December gonna mark our 5th year marriage, he is everything that I want, baik buruk semua blends well with my baik buruk :).. and I sooOo love the Lionel Richie songs in your list especially my favorite - Truly. Gosh, C.A.I.R ok? My heart just melts setiap kali dengar lagu ni :P

Sat Jul 26, 08:23:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

tulah mmg kene pikir sendiri..tapi takyah pk pk sangat ;-) 5th annivessary ye..i pray it'll last forever ya aminnn. tapi u guys memang very the romantika d'amor.

Saja je letak lagu yg 'blend' with the entry hehe..kasi effect lebe sikit hehe

Sat Jul 26, 08:34:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger N|i|N said...

Waa... this should've been a valentine's day post!

Ya la, nowadays if I want to sulk in my room and wait to be "pujuk-ed", I'd probably starve hahaha!!!

Baik la aku buat benda yg lebih berpekdah like...err...shopping hehehe....

Sun Jul 27, 10:36:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

eh haah laka..wrong month post hehe

exactly!..main pool ke, lepak minum kat kedai mamak ke ( like the men usually do ), tengok wayang ke..hish macam2 bole buat..

Sun Jul 27, 11:44:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger love-n-hate said...

Heyya neomestuff...

Cute topic!!! :)

I never taste 'puppy love' before but being in 'first love'... gosh!! no word can describe it... :) lol

During college years, like you said... everyone was so busy to get a date, bf/gf and even soul mate... me myself... busy with books... I don't even care about being in the trend!!... at that time lorr :)

Now... love is all around us... and I'm glad I have a chance to get the taste of it... :) and I love it... :) winkwink

Hope you'll be happy with your love ones too... :)

p/s: I was bloghopping, and I hopped here... nice blog tho' :)

Mon Jul 28, 12:45:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

thanks dear..;-)

i did not follow the trend too, not even busy with the books either ehehehe..dono what i was actually doin in college hahahha

oh yeah love is fun but somewhat tiring..for me at least ;-)

thanks for visiting..hugxxxx

Mon Jul 28, 04:26:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger Moomykin said...

For a good relationship with your spouse, have a good friendship.

I always say: if you love to hang out with your friends, share secrets, share your joy and pain, dreams and disappointments, wouldn't that be great if it's the one you are to spend your whole life with?

So your spouse should also be your best friend. :)

Tue Jul 29, 02:30:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger A Z R A said...

love is in the air huh? hehehehehe....

Wed Jul 30, 08:22:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

kin: true,thats the best, it is nice to love a good friend ;-)

smurfet: making love in the air heheh

Thu Jul 31, 11:46:00 am GMT+8  
Blogger Faisal Admar said...

i just hate my puppy love... it was a deep cut!

Thu Jul 31, 08:38:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger A Z R A said...

owhhh making love in the air, soundssss so erotic muarrghahahahaahahaha!

Thu Jul 31, 09:40:00 pm GMT+8  
Blogger neomesuff said...

f.a: first cut is the deepest eh..one day you will smile reminsing the memory ;-)

smurfett: hahaha i'll let your imagination runs wild ;-P

Thu Jul 31, 10:38:00 pm GMT+8  

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